Do you think she's pregnant?
Options for men
SERVICES FOR MEN
All our services are confidential and FREE of charge. Services for men and partners include:
Parenting, Adoption, and Abortion information
Pregnancy decision consultation
STI/STD education- **Male Testing is not available at this time**
After abortion support
Community Resource Support
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So she might be pregnant? We are here to help you both explore your options. We provide services and education so both of you are equipped and informed to make the best decision.
You may have a lot of questions about your parenting options (parenting, adoption, & abortion) and we're here to walk with you to provide the answers and support you may need. You do not have to do this alone.
What you can do
Take a deep breath. Take your time. One of the best things you can do is pause and help her slow down. You both may be scared and unsure so it is important not to make any rushed decisions without being accurately informed about your pregnancy decision. A rushed decision can cause regret in the future. Make an appointment for a judgment-free, private, and no-pressure pregnancy options consultation and a medically verified pregnancy test.
Home pregnancy tests are an indicator of pregnancy, but not a confirmation. Know for sure before you both decide on your future next steps.
You can do this
Whether you wanted her to become pregnant or not, it can be intimidating to accept the idea of becoming a father. While your situation may be unique in how you should move forward with the pregnancy, here are 5 things you should remember for your peace of mind:
1. Most people have children eventually.
Whether by accident or by choice, we're biologically wired to propagate ourselves. It's likely that it was only a matter of time before you would become a father. This should give you a level of comfort because it means that at your core, you do have what it takes to be a father
2. Men and women have been having children for a very long time
This may be obvious, but when you stop to think about it, this is a great consolation for having your own children. Of all people throughout history, do you really think you are any less prepared than anyone else? People have been having children since before there were hospitals, the internet, electricity, or running water. If you have access to any of these things, you are off to a fantastic start. Don't allow yourself to think you're not ready to have kids; you are more prepared than you think.
3. You were made for this
You are not just a passive observer in this process. What you do matters, and even if you think you don't know anything about being a dad, you know more than you realize. One of the most important things you can do is to just try. You will be a good dad if all you do is try. That doesn't mean you won't fail when you try, but learning how to seek forgiveness from your children is itself an indication that you are being a good dad. If you try to be a good dad, your paternal instincts will serve you well. Just pay attention to your child's needs and ask a medical professional if you have any concerns about your baby's health.
4. Your child is going to love you
Children are primed to want their father's love and acceptance. If you extend that love and acceptance to your child, you will have someone in your life who thinks you are the greatest man on earth. Embracing fatherhood means embracing someone who thinks the world of you. While becoming a father does mean you will have to make some sacrifices, remember that the treasure of a child's love is almost infinitely enriching.
5. This is your opportunity to be a hero
You now have two people depending on you: your baby and the mother. If you embrace fatherhood with unwavering resolve and conviction, you will be their hero. You may feel that there are few opportunities in our culture to express positive masculinity and heroism, well this is one of those few opportunities; don't miss your chance to be a genuine hero to your family, and to be a good man.