Do you think she's pregnant?
Whether you wanted her to become pregnant or not, it can be intimidating to accept the idea of becoming a father. While your situation may be unique in how you should move forward with the pregnancy, here are 5 things you should remember for your peace of mind:
1. Most people have children eventually.
Whether by accident or by choice, we're biologically wired to propagate ourselves. It's likely that it was only a matter of time before you would become a father. This should give you a level of comfort because it means that at your core, you do have what it takes to be a father
2. Men and women have been having children for a very long time
This may be obvious, but when you stop to think about it, this is a great consolation for having your own children. Of all people throughout history, do you really think you are any less prepared than anyone else? People have been having children since before there were hospitals, the internet, electricity, or running water. If you have access to any of these things, you are off to a fantastic start. Don't allow yourself to think you're not ready to have kids; you are more prepared than you think.
3. You were made for this
You are not just a passive observer in this process. What you do matters, and even if you think you don't know anything about being a dad, you know more than you realize. One of the most important things you can do is to just try. You will be a good dad if all you do is try. That doesn't mean you won't fail when you try, but learning how to seek forgiveness from your children is itself an indication that you are being a good dad. If you try to be a good dad, your paternal instincts will serve you well. Just pay attention to child's needs and ask a medical professional if you have any concerns about your baby's health.
4. Your child is going to love you
Children are primed to want their father's love and acceptance. If you extend that love and acceptance to your child, you will have someone in your life who thinks you are greatest man on earth. Embracing fatherhood means embracing someone who thinks the world of you. While becoming a father does mean you will have to make some sacrifices, remember that the treasure of a child's love is almost infinitely enriching.
5. This is your opportunity to be a hero
You now have two people depending on you: your baby, and the mother. If you embrace fatherhood with unwavering resolve and conviction, you will be their hero. You may feel that there are few opportunities in our culture to to express positive masculinity and heroism, well this is one of those few opportunities; don't miss your chance to be a genuine hero to your family, and to be a good man.
Come see us!
You are extremely important in this process, and we want to help you get what you need to be the best dad that you can be. We have male advocates ready meet with you to discuss any questions or concerns you have, as well as to offer opportunities to earn supplies for your baby, such a clothes, diapers, new car seats, and more.
All of our services are completely free and confidential, so come and get what you need for you and your family.